You’re interested in a guy and he seems to be interested in you. You’ve been having a good conversation going for a while and may have even seen him a few times–in a non-date setting. Yet, he still hasn’t asked you out on a REAL date. It can be so frustrating and make you wonder why he hasn’t made a move or if he ever will.
Depending on the circumstances, the confidence of the guy, and the way a lady makes him feel, there’s a reason he hasn’t asked you out.
He may be physically or emotionally unavailable, in which case, the timing is just bad, says professional matchmaker and founder of cupidscronies.com, April Davis. “He could also be stringing the girl along simply for attention and to feed his ego, with no real interest in having it go anywhere.”
There is also more confusion about who asks who out today. Even when interest feels mutual, men fear rejection, says Michael Bruch, creator of the messaging app, Willow.
“Perhaps the guy is concerned the woman just views him as a friend. Many guys are hesitant to ask a girl out when they aren’t receiving strong signals. They don’t want to have their ego bruised, so many wait until they are confidant in the outcome to ask a girl out.”
Speaking of “friends”, he could’ve already placed you in the friend zone and more needs to be done to make him see you differently and create a spark.
“Turn up the sexy and flirt more, to get his attention,” says Davis.
Or, just ask him out.
A good looking guy may just be used to women throwing themselves at him, and asking him out, says relationship coach & author, Cherry Norris.
If that’s the case, do you really want to be with someone like that anyway?
“In every successful romantic relationship, there is one primarily masculine hero who initiates and pursues, and one feminine ingénue who is receptive and available,” says Norris.
Depending on the circumstances, both people could assume the role of the female. If that happens, find yourself a new man!