A former “16 and Pregnant” reality star is sparking a bit of controversy for how she teaches her 6-year-old son about chivalry. Nikkole Paulun, 22, says she and her son, Lyle, go on a “date” once a month that HE pays for with his allowance. In a post on Facebook, she writes, “He opens doors for me, pulls out my chair, talks about his day & asks me how mine was, pays the bill with money he earned by doing chores, and even tips the waiter/waitress. By doing this I am teaching him how to treat a lady.” In addition, Paulun says her son learns about proper table manners, as well as, the value of money.
The unique parenting style makes sense to this single mom, forced to act as both mother and father. With no father around, who else is going to teach her son about chivalry? Paulun goes on to explain that, “As a woman who has been abused and treated like crap in the past, it’s extremely important to me that I teach my son how to show respect. Too many men these days have no idea how to treat women or how to take them on a nice date. It’s nice to know my son won’t be one of them.”
Her method seems to be working. In a recent interview with ABC News, Paulun says she’s seen him use his politeness everywhere. “He will ask people who come over questions about their day or their life. It’s so cute,” she says.
Responses to Nikkole’s post ranged from praise, with one woman saying, “It is very important to teach him these lessons. He will make a woman very happy one day!”.
However, many called her method bad parenting, with one person saying, “I get the idea behind it, but it’s a little unfair to suggest that unless you make him do that then he’ll turn out to be a bad guy when it comes to women.”
It may not be the best idea, but it certainly is not a bad idea. Surely, the boy would rather buy toys with his allowance than a meal for his mother. (Or maybe he does like buying his mom dinner.) And we know that chivalry is a lot more than taking a girl out for a meal. But, just the fact that she is teaching her son manners, generosity and is spending quality time with him is a lot more than some parents do these days. That, alone, may be enough to set this 6-year-old on the right path.