Why The #$%& Hasn’t He Asked You Out Yet?

You’re interested in a guy and he seems to be interested in you. You’ve been having a good conversation going for a while and may have even seen him a few times–in a non-date setting. Yet, he still hasn’t asked you out on a REAL date. It can be so frustrating and make you wonder why he hasn’t made a move or if he ever will.

Depending on the circumstances, the confidence of the guy, and the way a lady makes him feel, there’s a reason he hasn’t asked you out.

He may be physically or emotionally unavailable, in which case, the timing is just bad, says professional matchmaker and founder of cupidscronies.com, April Davis. “He could also be stringing the girl along simply for attention and to feed his ego, with no real interest in having it go anywhere.”

There is also more confusion about who asks who out today. Even when interest feels mutual, men fear rejection, says Michael Bruch, creator of the messaging app, Willow.

“Perhaps the guy is concerned the woman just views him as a friend. Many guys are hesitant to ask a girl out when they aren’t receiving strong signals. They don’t want to have their ego bruised, so many wait until they are confidant in the outcome to ask a girl out.”

Speaking of “friends”, he could’ve already placed you in the friend zone and more needs to be done to make him see you differently and create a spark.

“Turn up the sexy and flirt more, to get his attention,” says Davis.

Or, just ask him out.

A good looking guy may just be used to women throwing themselves at him, and asking him out, says relationship coach & author, Cherry Norris.

If that’s the case, do you really want to be with someone like that anyway?

“In every successful romantic relationship, there is one primarily masculine hero who initiates and pursues, and one feminine ingénue who is receptive and available,” says Norris.

Depending on the circumstances, both people could assume the role of the female.  If that happens, find yourself a new man!

Mom Makes Young Son Take Her Out On “Dates” To Teach Him About Chivalry, Respecting Women

A former “16 and Pregnant” reality star is sparking a bit of controversy for how she teaches her 6-year-old son about chivalry. Nikkole Paulun, 22, says she and her son, Lyle, go on a “date” once a month that HE pays for with his allowance. In a post on Facebook, she writes, “He opens doors for me, pulls out my chair, talks about his day & asks me how mine was, pays the bill with money he earned by doing chores, and even tips the waiter/waitress. By doing this I am teaching him how to treat a lady.” In addition, Paulun says her son learns about proper table manners, as well as, the value of money.

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The unique parenting style makes sense to this single mom, forced to act as both mother and father. With no father around, who else is going to teach her son about chivalry? Paulun goes on to explain that, “As a woman who has been abused and treated like crap in the past, it’s extremely important to me that I teach my son how to show respect. Too many men these days have no idea how to treat women or how to take them on a nice date. It’s nice to know my son won’t be one of them.”

Her method seems to be working. In a recent interview with ABC News, Paulun says she’s seen him use his politeness everywhere. “He will ask people who come over questions about their day or their life. It’s so cute,” she says.

Responses to Nikkole’s post ranged from praise, with one woman saying, “It is very important to teach him these lessons. He will make a woman very happy one day!”.

However, many called her method bad parenting, with one person saying, “I get the idea behind it, but it’s a little unfair to suggest that unless you make him do that then he’ll turn out to be a bad guy when it comes to women.”

It may not be the best idea, but it certainly is not a bad idea. Surely, the boy would rather buy toys with his allowance than a meal for his mother. (Or maybe he does like buying his mom dinner.) And we know that chivalry is a lot more than taking a girl out for a meal. But, just the fact that she is teaching her son manners, generosity and is spending quality time with him is a lot more than some parents do these days. That, alone, may be enough to set this 6-year-old on the right path.