They say if you really want to get to know a person take a trip together because it will reveal the good, the bad, and the ugly about someone. Think about it. You’re spending a lot of time with that one person—standing in lines, splitting bills, deciding what time to get off the beach. This is the time when you see them outside their normal routine and often pushed out of their comfort zone.
“You might learn that together you’re a good team and you may return home closer than ever, says associate professor of psychology at James Madison University, Dr. Jaime Kurtz. “But traveling with someone might reveal things that you simply don’t like and never knew before: a fear of new cultural experiences and a general sense of closed-mindedness; excessive rigidity and an inability to compromise or deviate from routines,” she writes in a piece for Psychology Today.
Since traveling together can make or break a relationship, does it make more sense to wait to take that first getaway with someone new? Doesn’t appear so. According to a new survey by Expedia and the research company, GfK, a whopping 30% of people would take a trip with someone they’ve only been dating for 1 to 3 months.
The Expedia Heat Index survey of more than 1,000 American travelers also reveals:
• 25% would wait 4 to 8 months to travel with a new partner
• 15% would wait more than a full year
• 10% would take an overnight trip with a new partner within the first month
• 4% would take the trip on the first date
And, heartbreaks do happen on getaways with 4% of those surveyed having ended a relationship while traveling with their partner and another 4% say they have considered doing so.
Before going on a trip together, be honest about your “travel personality”. For example, do you sleep in or get up early to make the most of the day? Would you rather lay on the beach all day or take excursions?
Kurtz advises new travel partners to be clear about your need for alone time and also about your specific interests and goals for the trip.
“If you do find yourself in conflict while traveling, it is best to address it as soon as possible. After you’ve identified a specific problem, approach your partner with a calm, level-headed mindset,” she says.
If you let your lover know of your travel quirks ahead of time, it may help avoid arguments on the trip and a potential breakup when you both get back.